What is love?

Love. What is it? Do most of us really know what it is? If God is Love, as we are all taught in church, then is it love that we are really searching for? Not God? These questions have been lingering in my mind for several weeks now. Laying awake at night asking myself these questions, to which I don’t have answers to. Krishnamurti talks about this frequently in the current book I am reading “Think on these things”. He writes about what it is not and what it is

Love it not emotional, it is not sentimental, it is not something we posses. When we attach these things to love, it changes the love into something that isn’t love at all.  Things such as jealousy, fear, possessiveness(he or she is mine, physically or legally), or expecting something in return for your love. Imagine it like tying all of these things to you and dragging them behind you. Over time they deteriorate, they begin to feel like baggage, unnecessary weight you are hauling around, making you tired and annoyed. How often has this happened to you? You love someone, and then suddenly you don’t. It is all these other things we attach to it, that aren’t love. Over time these things, the jealousy, the fear, they whittle love down to nothing, and thus the love disappears.

Love, real love brings compassion, mercy, and generosity freely and abundantly. Love cannot be only towards one person, it must be towards all.  If you only give love to one person, then do you really know love, or do you simply want something in return for your love? For example, if you love your partner, mother, father, etc. but show hatred towards a neighbor, colleague, or a stranger, do you really understand love? I would say not entirely, you need a new and deeper understanding.

A religious man who shows love for his God, he prays fervently, but for what? For his prayer to be answered. He is looking for something in return, for his God to show mercy or compassion for his situation. And what if his prayer is not answered, will his devotion remain? Maybe yes, but over time it will likely fade. In my experience it is those in religion that know love the least. They will show love towards other Christians, but harsh judgment towards those of another religion, background or belief.

Love  should not be singular, it should be love of everything.  The people around you and the world around you. If you truly understand love, then how can you only love one thing, and not love the entirety of the world? What would happen if humanity really learned to love? Not love based on status or circumstance, not based on how it might benefit us, or our shared beliefs, but love that expects nothing in return?  Love that gives and does not take.

Part of this journey is self discovery, learning about my own mind. Piecing apart the things I have always known, discovering the unknown, and on my own figuring out what all that means, not based on what I was taught, or how I was conditioned to think. I ask myself, what would happen in my life, if I came to a new understanding of love? I love and have loved, and in the same time shown hatred, dislike, or lack of respect towards another.  So I question my understanding of love. I have no singular solution, other than begin with myself. I am not in control of the the world, but I am in control how the world impacts me, and in return my impact on the world. 

I would like to get some reader feedback on this, although we do not yet have a large audience, I am hoping there is someone out there that reads this and feels compelled to comment or share some thoughts.

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